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Apology to Spare?


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My best friend for 38 years. A friend is always by your side and supports you. Gabe personifies this and more.

Why is it so hard to apologize when you are wrong? I often wonder this in my musings and meditations. I have a lot of acquaintances, but only a few I consider friends. These are friends who are with me when I need them. Some who show up out of nowhere, just because they heard I have trouble. People whom I have never had a harsh word with, nor have I ever had a snide comment from them to me or me to them. If they want to tell me something, they do. I listen. If it is not something I want to hear, I still listen. I take it under consideration and I learn from their advice. After all they are my friends and their advice is worthy of consideration. Always. I love them. They support me, even when I up and move to Colombia with a younger man. They support me because they see I am doing well. They support me because they are proud of me. They just support me. This blog is for them. I can’t put everyone here…but I will put a few. Because I appreciate all they have given me in life. I love you all very much. You know who you are. Some are newer to my life, some have been with me and my adventures since I was a mere kid…some I lost touch with but they found me because they missed me. I have found some of my old friends on my own also. I have no words to say except thank you. This blog is for all of you who have never spoken an unkind word about me, who have been there for me through my best moments and my most horrible moments. You are really wonderful friends.

So if you need to apologize you should. Life is short and apologies are sparse. If I offend someone I say I am sorry. Always. Maybe, just maybe this will change just one person out there who needs to apologize but hasn’t. Is it really worth losing a friendship, family member, lover, marriage over? I don’t think so. Apologies are a way for us to make things right again.

Misha and I with Marley
My daughter was always my best friend, no matter what we went through

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I'm an American woman who took a leap of faith and moved to Colombia 15 years ago after the devastating loss of my daughter. What began as a journey to find peace and heal a broken heart became an entirely new chapter of my life. Fifteen years later, Colombia isn't just where I live. It's my home, and a place that has taught me more about life, love, and myself than I ever could have imagined. I bought a villa in the mountains, renovated it, and created my own little piece of paradise, Villa Migelita Ecolodge. Along the way, I've embraced a new culture, learned Spanish (still a work in progress!), made wonderful friendships, and discovered that life has a funny way of surprising us when we least expect it. My life here is filled with hummingbirds, breathtaking mountain views, unexpected adventures, occasional chaos, and plenty of stories that sometimes seem too unbelievable to be true! Hummings from Paradise is my way of sharing it all. The beautiful moments, the challenges, the laughter, the tears, and the lessons I've learned along the way. I believe life is a book filled with chapters, and I'm still writing mine. Some chapters are heartbreaking, others are hilarious, but every one has helped shape the woman I am today. I hope you'll follow along as I continue discovering not only this beautiful country I've come to call home, but also a little more about myself. And believe me, there's never a dull moment in paradise!

9 thoughts on “Apology to Spare?”

  1. Life is too short? Yes…..you never know when your inning on this planet ends! And since everything is relative- most of our differences are largely result of ego or opinions, it’s best to move on by accepting them.

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  2. When you ask another you gave hurt intentionally or not for forgiveness and are sincere, God sets you free… The ball is now in the other’s court, and if they chose not to forgive then the burden is on them and a root of bitterness grows.. They become slaves to that bitter root of
    unforgiveness. Getting back to what you said about real friends .. Scripture says in Proverbs 27:6.. “better are wounds from a friend then kisses from an enemy ” which just means a real friend will always tell us the truth, what we need to hear not what we want to hear even if it may sting a tad because their motives are pure and want us to see if we gave gone astray; whereas a person who is not a true friend will just blow smoke ….
    We will not always get the apology we think we deserve but I have learned thru the years that truth and time walk hand in hand .. (truth always comes out in the end) I love you old friend, God bless you 🌷

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    1. Aww, what a lovely comment. I love that proverb because isn’t it the truth? The people who pretend and then are saying unkind things behind your back is usually the result of jealousy…which in my opinion is what cause more strife in the world, people’s lives and more. I am so happy we have connected again..and you knew I was talking about you and a few others in this blog ❤

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  3. Many a times, misunderstandings leave no room for apologising. Both the parties must understand that they’ll miss this as well and bend down.
    Well said!

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