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The Simple Life

This newsletter is about finding paradise in ordinary moments. I don’t write about extraordinary things. I write about noticing ordinary things that most people rush past. When people arrive at Villa Migelita, many of them eventually take off their shoes. They don’t do it because there’s a sign. They do it because something shifts. They relax. They slow down. They feel at home. And they walk barefoot in the grass.

There’s something about the people who stay here. By the second day, many are walking barefoot.  No one tells them to.

It just happens.

Maybe it’s the grass. Maybe it’s the mountain air. Maybe it’s because, for a little while, they stop worrying about looking polished and start feeling present.

I think that’s what paradise is. Not luxury.  Not perfection.  Just the freedom to kick off your shoes. I’ve realized I’ve become a little barefoot too. Not just in my shoes, but in the way I live. Less rushing. Less proving. More noticing.

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Nature always has a way of bringing balance to our lives.

Lately, I’ve been adopted by not one, but two Western Emerald hummingbirds.

One lives at the feeders outside my suite, and the other has claimed the feeders in the social area. If I’m not quick enough filling them, they don’t hesitate to remind me. They follow me to the kitchen, trail me down the stairs, and sometimes buzz around my head like tiny Fourth of July sparklers.

This isn’t the first time.

A few years ago, I had a little Western Emerald I named Magic. He lived here for nearly three years. Every time I drove home, he somehow knew I had arrived. I’d open the truck door, and there he’d be, waiting to greet me. We had our own little routine.

When Magic stopped coming, I missed him more than I expected. It’s funny how attached you can become to something so small.

Now, these two little emeralds have taken over the job. They greet me every day, chatter at me when breakfast is late, and yes… I talk to them.

How can I not when they make sure I know I am not fast enough to fill their feeder?

Here in the mountains of Colombia, I’ve learned that nature has its own language. Sometimes all you have to do is slow down long enough to hear it.

I’ve written before about how different homes are here in the Colombian countryside. Most of us don’t have air conditioning or central heat. Instead, we live with our doors open to the balconies, inviting the breeze to wander through. City life may be a little different, but not by much.

Living this way means accepting that nature doesn’t stop at your front door. A bee might buzz through the kitchen. A hummingbird may accidentally find its way inside. A giant grasshopper—considered good luck here—might appear on the wall. Every now and then, I’ll spot a witch moth quietly resting in a corner. And yes, the downstairs bathroom occasionally has a tiny toad tucked behind the door.

It isn’t unusual. It’s simply part of life.

The Witch Moth

There is no darkness at my house. Only light, glorious light.

Sometimes a butterfly will land on my hand

Every morning, sunlight pours through the open windows, and I wake to the warmth of a new day. The breeze wanders through the hallway and across the balconies. It’s impossible not to feel connected to the world outside.

I believe there is something deeply healing about living this way.

We spend so much of our lives trying to separate from nature, when perhaps we were meant to be part of it all along.

My guests seem to understand that. They don’t complain about the occasional visitor with wings or long legs. In fact, many embrace it. I’ve watched couples head out after sunset with flashlights in hand, eager to discover what comes alive after dark. They’re not looking for luxury; they’re looking for an experience.

And that, to me, is the magic of this place.

Paradise isn’t perfect. It chirps, hops, buzzes, croaks, and sometimes flies right through your front door.

And somehow, that makes it feel even more like home.

You know what surprised me this week? Reading about the “simple” trend.

Apparently, I’ve been living it for years.

Everything here is simple. My life isn’t perfect, but it is peaceful. I still have problems. We all do. The difference is that I have a place that reminds me to slow down long enough to figure them out.

Maybe that’s what paradise has been trying to teach me all along.

What simple thing makes you feel at home?

Posted in life in colombia, Love & Dating, Personal Growth, relationships, self-reflection, Uncategorized

Love Bombed, Maybe: Choosing My Peace (Part 3)

The morning LB left, I realized I felt lighter, as if a weight had been lifted. It was still early, the sun not yet visible as the soft light of dawn slowly appeared. The stillness around me was comforting. The hummingbirds began to flit near the feeders, starting their day, while my dogs gathered around me, ready for their morning meal.

I stood watching them eat, then wandered to the balcony, where I watched the hummingbirds move quickly and effortlessly, exactly where they were meant to be. I felt something shift inside me. I didn’t feel sadness, nor relief. Just clarity—that quiet sense of knowing I was exactly where I wanted to be, without the need for another person to define my life.

The life I had built in Colombia came back to me in that moment—shaped by my instincts, my intuition, my mistakes, and my decisions. Standing there, looking out over the mountains, I realized how much I loved this life.

And for the first time, I allowed myself to fully accept something I hadn’t said out loud before: I didn’t need anyone else to fill the space beside me.

Christmas brought rest after a busy month of hosting guests at my glamping site. LB was with his family in the U.S., and we were back to sending memes on WhatsApp. I felt rested, finally free from his constant neediness—the disrupted sleep, the phone in hand at all hours.

As December came to a close, I was busy preparing for New Year’s Eve, one of my busiest times of the year. Every room was filled. And yet, I felt content.

My life in Colombia had healed me in ways I hadn’t fully recognized before. I no longer felt the need for someone else to complete me. If someone wants to join me on my journey, they would have to be an equal—grounded, self-aware, and whole in their own right.

I have spent years building this life, shaping it through reflection, growth, and hard-earned clarity. And I know how important it is to protect that.

LB had returned to his life in the United States, but I noticed a quiet shift in our communication. He would let my messages sit unread for long periods or respond with a simple heart. Then, after hours of silence, he would send a string of memes, most of them centered on love.

I had been thinking about how to talk to him about his habits during his visit in December. I knew I couldn’t have him back without some honest conversation and meaningful changes. As I mentioned in my last blog, he had said he would visit every month, but never said when he would return. I wasn’t asking by then—I already knew my feelings had shifted while he was here.

Then I got the text that changed everything.

It started simply: “I don’t understand why you aren’t reading my messages.”

His reply was: “I don’t appreciate being chastised for not immediately responding like you’re an unhappy client.”

Just one dismissive message. That was enough.

In that moment, I realized continuing the communication wasn’t healthy for me. I don’t do drama. I value my peace. So I responded the way I always do when something feels off: I stepped back into silence.

It wasn’t just the text—it was everything that had been building beneath it. And suddenly, I no longer felt the need to address any of it.

Later, he sent me an email. He argued at length that he had always been direct with me, that my blogs misrepresented him, and that I had never raised my concerns in real time.

I had planned to do that gently, in my own way, but his reaction to a simple question had already shown me how those conversations would go.

Reading his email, I noticed a pattern. He focused on what I hadn’t done, not on what had actually happened between us. In that moment, I knew I didn’t need to respond in detail. I already understood enough.

I found his idea of love interesting. He said his feelings were genuine, that he was the thoughtful one, and that his love was real—yet there was never any accountability. The text he had sent was simply ignored, as if it didn’t exist.

I had to laugh.

He tried to provoke me, calling me a “mess” as a joke, and I replied, “Maybe you should add saying ‘I’m sorry’ to your resume.” He didn’t know how to read me at all.

Then he quickly replied, asking if I would write a fourth blog titled, “What if the Love Bomber Really Loved Me?” and signed it, Warm Regards, The Love Bomber. I actually laughed out loud.

When we first met in Bogotá, he told me he didn’t like predictable women, and that I wasn’t one. Yet in the end, his behavior was entirely predictable. Instead of taking responsibility, he continued to shift the blame.

His last email was well written—I’ll give him that. Maybe someone else would have found it convincing. But for me, it only confirmed what I already knew.

So I did what felt right. I stepped back, I reflected, and I wrote. I share my experiences not to convince anyone, but simply because they are mine.

The ending wasn’t dramatic. There was no big confrontation, and I’ve realized I didn’t need one. We’ve stayed in touch, but nothing we’ve said has changed how I feel.

I don’t need him to understand. I don’t need an apology.

What matters most is peace—and I have it.

Sometimes, love doesn’t fail for lack of feeling. It fails when one person cannot meet the other where they need them to be. LB liked to say he was being direct, but I’ve learned that “direct” can often be a mask for hurtful words.

“What I thought was an ending was really a return—to myself, my life, and my peace.”

PS: LB is the Love Bomber. He has the traits of someone who isn’t fully secure, yet he is a decent person. I hold no grudges. Some love stories end suddenly; others quietly fade away.

Either way, I am still me—still laughing, still living my life, unbothered and one step ahead.