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What Feels Right for Me? Exploring Almost 15 Year’s Living in Colombia.

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What relationships have a positive impact on you?

Let’s face it, life is an ebb and flow. We lose relationships and gain new ones. We look through photo albums and remember how certain people were so important in our lives, yet now we have no contact with them. Doesn’t it make you sad? Of course, for some, we look for them on social media, find them, and reconnect. Others, we sigh and say Oh well, what fun it was when we were friends. For me, I totally changed my life. I left and moved to Colombia after my daughter died and found a new beginning. Some friends didn’t like that I left my son with his father, and found me to be a bad mother. To be honest, it hurt me because some of the people I respected were among them. But I do not live my life for other people’s opinions, nor for what society deems correct. I live for what makes me healthy and whole. What I did may have seemed hurtful at first, but it turned out to be a wonderful thing for my son later, when he needed to live with me here in Colombia and heal. You know, as I have said many times, the death of a child is devastating in ways no one can understand. Only those who have experienced it firsthand can comprehend. I myself have been healing for almost 15 years since she died. I think perhaps I am healed. But then, the New Year is upon us, and it will be another death anniversary where I remember her death as if it just happened. With that acknowledgement, I go to the subject at hand. What relationships have a positive impact on me?

Anyone who is authentically independent. My daughter was that way, I am that way; anyone who is focused on their own path, standing by their own choices, even when they are unpopular, is alright with me. How can we be happy in life if we live to only please others? When we decide to change to please others, we start giving away pieces of ourselves. No one should do that. As my mother always told me, “Be original, not a carbon copy!” I honor her words every single day, because anyone who knows me knows that I am who I am…good or bad, you will have an opinion of me.

I like people who are culturally aware. Those who have a need to look outside of what their world is and try to understand that others live differently. I appreciate the people around me who are intelligent enough to look beyond their own lives and realize there are other perspectives in this great big world. I live that way, so I can comment on it honestly. I am a foreigner in Colombia, which has given me more cultural awareness than I could glean from any book, fiction or nonfiction. I am so grateful I have experienced everything that I have while living here in Colombia. Some things are not so good, and some experiences are so amazing that I will die and relive them on my deathbed.

My relationships are genuine, honest, and real. I love relatable human beings. Engaging people are interesting, they laugh, they uplift others, and joy is part of their daily life. They show gratitude in life. They try not to be complainers. I chose not to complain when the worst happened to me. I still live that way. I try to wake up smiling, and it has gotten easier over the years, living in the little paradise I have created. I can speak Spanish; I am loved, and I am bold. Be bold, people! Unfortunately, today’s world is not for the meek. It is not what happens to you but how you react to it, good or bad. As I enter a New Year, I have realized that the only person who controls me is me. Those who are in my inner circle know I never stop, I cannot sit still for long because I am constantly moving. Why? I don’t know, but it is who I am, maybe it is the past trauma I experienced, and when I do relax, it is with a glass of wine. Who would ever think I would change my life so drastically, and that it would turn out okay? But it did. After almost fifteen years in Colombia, I am still finding myself, but in a good way. I wish the same for all of you!

Posted in Achievements, Colombia, Colombian life, happiness, Uncategorized

Don’t Worry Be Happy

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List 30 things that make you happy.

I never thought I could find happiness again after my daughter was taken from this world. But it seems life continues, and I can list 30 things without a problem. Those reading my blog might enjoy this fun assignment, too. Leave your list in the comments. Below is my list, which is in no particular order, just as it pops into my head.

  1. Writing. I am finally actively involved in writing my autobiography. I imagine it will be a Netflix series, but you never know.
  2. Colombia. My new country and I will live there, God willing, for the rest of my life.
  3. Hummingbirds. I like to think they are my spiritual animal.
  4. Bird-watching. Immersing yourself in the sounds of birds will help anyone feeling depressed. I do believe birds gave me relief during some of my darkest times.
  5. Flowers. I cut flowers from my yard every week. I have never had so many types of flowers in my life. They grow without fuss here in Colombia.
  6. The view from my Villa. I live with a million-dollar view and am still in awe 13 years later.
  7. The lights of Cali, Colombia, at night. It is Christmas year-round at my Villa
  8. .My animals. There is nothing to say here; we all love our sweet friends.
  9. My life right now. It is a life with purpose; I love that!
  10. My friends. All of you know who you are.
  11. Memories. I am writing my autobiography now. Those of you who wondered when I would. I am on it.
  12. My son. I lost him for some years, but he is back in my life, and with all the love we can give each other.
  13. My granddaughter. She is a lovely young lady who calls me a lot.
  14. Someone who cooks for me. Cooking is not my favorite thing to do.
  15. The climate I live in daily. Here in Colombia, I live without air-conditioning or heating. It is not needed. Believe me when I say it is a luxury not to need either.
  16. Yoga. It is necessary for my health and my mind.
  17. My Glamping business. Everyone loves a nature retreat.
  18. Nature. I live in it daily.
  19. Music.
  20. My nails and other girly stuff. I don’t care if I see a soul. I will always have my nails and hair done right.
  21. The Guests who visit my Glamping business. I have the best guests who become very good friends.
  22. Travel. I love visiting different departments in Colombia. I still have a lot of Colombia left to see.
  23. Good reviews. I consistently get good reviews for my business.
  24. Flight attendants. I was one, and I love all of you who are still in my life. I love your adventures and will always support you when you have bad or good days. It is not an easy job anymore.
  25. My health.
  26. My healthcare. I have the best healthcare I have ever had here in Colombia.
  27. Politics. I am a political junkie and have never missed a vote since Jimmy Carter was elected when I was 18 years old.
  28. Board Games. I am always ready to play Rummikube. Just ask me.
  29. Dancing. I was a great dancer when I was young, and I can still follow anyone who asks me to dance.
  30. My Villa here in Colombia. I have a minimalist home that is open and has a lot of light coming in.

Posted in ambiance, Colombia, expat life, Glampingcolombia, humbackwhales, Live your best life, mother nature, nature, Uncategorized

The Connection

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What strategies do you use to maintain your health and well-being?

Health and the mind are interconnected. To maintain a healthy body, we must maintain a healthy lifestyle. That includes eating, socializing, being active, having animals, and, most importantly, enjoying our lives by allowing time for fulfilling activities.

I am always busy because I have a side business, running a small hotel and glamping place. I try to take short vacations to give me a new perspective on my place. Whenever I return home, I appreciate what I have done to develop a beautiful atmosphere of nature and birds.

Last week, I visited Juanchaco, Colombia, to see the whales that visit every summer. What a beautiful experience and a bucket-list adventure for me.

The whales visit from July until October, sometimes into November. The weather is surprising because it is often cloudy and rainy. The locals tell me this is normal on the Pacific coast of Colombia.

It was a bit intimidating when we went out on the little boat because the whales were more significant or the same size. Taking photos was not easy.

Humpback whales in Colombia

Would I recommend this adventure? Yes! With some additional information. Juanchaco is lovely but poor. There is a lot of garbage around, something I wish could be eliminated. It washes up from the ocean. You need to let it go because the actual experience of seeing the whales is incredible. The beach is deserted, and you can spend your mornings watching the spouts of the whales and dolphins in the distance as you have breakfast. Are the cabins like mine? No, but they are clean.

Let me talk about the food. It is so delicious, made from fresh catch every single day. The fishermen sell to the hotels after going out to fish in the morning. We had the most wonderful cook who made different recipes for every meal. She made fresh juice, hot chocolate the Colombian way, and lemonade. If you wanted something special, she could make that too!

Amazing food
Posted in Achievements, Colombia, Entreprenuer, Glampingcolombia, Live your best life, Uncategorized, Villa Migelita Ecolodge

Glamping, A New Start

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It has been too long since I wrote my previous blog. I wrote about how I wanted to reset my business after the last years of the pandemic. Two years of Covid restrictions wiped out all I had accomplished and worked hard to achieve. During my time away from writing, a tiny house made of glass for glamping was constructed here in Colombia at Villa Migelita Ecolodge. Glamping is an accurate word now, and it is a popular way for many people to spend time away in the country and take a break from the cities they reside in. The idea that I wrote about changing my business’s direction has turned into something bigger than I had imagined, and I am grateful for every second of this new phase in my life. 

In my last blog, I wrote that I planned to build this tiny house. It became a goal that I was determined to keep. I focused on building, and I pushed any doubts out of my mind. I knew that I needed to get back into the business of hosting, to have people here enjoying nature, watching the hummingbirds, and looking out to incredible views. I choose to trust the voice inside me that guided me on this new journey. 

Losing my business during the Covid 19 years gave me a different perspective on everything I had done before when I had a thriving business. I realized that I enjoyed staying in my Villa during the beginning days of quarantine; I was always in a hurry to get back home when I went out to do errands. Before Covid, I planned adventures for my guests, and I always looked for new tourist activities to share. After the country opened up, I knew my Villa was beautiful with magnificent views, but I hadn’t used that as my focal point as a tourism business. I started to see the value in what I had right in front of me when I received guests again at Villa Migelita Ecolodge. I took these observations and created a plan.

First: I took a small loan. A significant decision, as I didn’t want any debt, and I hadn’t had any obligation for many years. My decision to expand when I was unsure if I could make money again was to learn a lesson. Use other people’s money if you can. Second: believe in your judgment, even if it is something you wouldn’t have usually considered after two years of lost time and money. Third: accept what you have done, whether the outcome will be good or bad. It’s our thinking that holds us back more than anything else. There’s no reason to imprison yourself. Don’t think outside the box. Think like there is no box. Sometimes, we need to listen to that inner voice that guides us.

I opened up Cristal House Glamping on January 1st, 2022. Every weekend since has sold out. I am now getting many week-day bookings also. My new Glamping business has brought more bookings to my Ecolodge, and I am meeting many young professionals from Cali, Colombia. Young people are the life-blood of our world. I never imagined that my idea of entering the Glamping business would be successful right away. I thought it would be the same as when I opened my Ecolodge many years ago—steady growth with slow word-of-mouth recommendations. Instagram and social media expansion has changed the way new business evolves. I am so indebted to the younger generation that visits me. They send me videos I never would know how to produce. They are all video filmmakers these days. They have shown me that using the stories on my Instagram and Facebook reach so many more people than I ever thought possible. Their clever use of photo opportunities brings different ways of presenting a view or an activity to further light. This old dog is learning new tricks! I am also making so many new friends. By writing about this in my blog, I hope to reach and help others who want to bring back their business after the past years they lost. Just look at the young people around you. They can guide you to success!

Now I am building another Glamping house here at Villa Migelita Ecolodge. That money I had from my loan brought me more money through my bookings. I am not keeping it in the bank but spending it growing my small business. Again, I am following my inner voice. It is still dawning on me that I am doing more in my 60s as an entrepreneur than I have ever done before. Hopefully, nature will always be a widespread love to many, with amazing views and incredible birds that people love to photograph.

After years of being restricted by the pandemic, people want to be outdoors. I have used it to my advantage. I am grateful and humbled. I am learning to be at peace with my decisions after such a long time of subtle criticism by others that I choose to ignore. I am my support system. It is empowering. I have chosen myself, and it has worked out. You can do it too! Just believe in yourself, filter out unwanted noise from others around you, and listen to the most authentic voice you have—your own.  

Posted in Alternative Lifestyle, Awakening, Colombia, Dogo Argentino, Entreprenuer, exercise, expat life, family, farm life, friendship, happiness, life lessons, Live your best life, Uncategorized

Living Your Best Life

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I recently watched a movie on Netflix that reminded me of myself and my life. A girly movie called Falling Inn Love. I haven’t fallen in love with a person, but I have fallen in love with a new country and opened a hotel. I have found that changing my lifestyle and country changed me also. I have a new outlook on how I live my life. So there were definite parallels between myself and the main character of this sweet movie. Although the woman in the movie changed her life and attitude in a short period, it has taken me 8 years. I moved to Colombia without speaking Spanish, and I had to learn to live in a new culture completely different from the United States. This movie made me think about all that has changed in my life, and how I have evolved into the person I am now.

For most of my adult life, I lived and worked with the perception in my head that I was doing what I did to achieve not personal freedom and happiness but to achieve a certain lifestyle I thought was necessary to live a good life. As every human being knows our intentions sometimes take a different turn and we find ourselves in situations that are beyond our control. We find ourselves with problems that pop up unexpectedly, usually not of our own doing. We find ourselves having to fight for what is best and we don’t think of ourselves but of changing others. As I have grown older I have found out to change others is an impossibility. We can only change ourselves. We need to live our best life and let even the most beloved people in our lives see that they must also live their best life too.

Living in the rural country of Colombia is a lifestyle change of a magnitude I never thought possible until I did it and adjusted to the lack of accessibility to ordering a pizza on a whim or running out of an item and just running across the street to the grocery or drug store. Buying everything you need in one place, not going from store to store to complete my errands as I do here in Palmira, Colombia. We have errand days here in Colombia and we have it down to a science now. The years leading up to my now complete organization were difficult. I was not able to do things by myself because I couldn’t communicate well and I was nervous about driving without being able to speak Spanish well. Now I just hop in my truck and go.

Recently my son moved to Colombia to live with me. He, fortunately, doesn’t have to go through what I went through except learning Spanish. He is enjoying complete cultural change without learning hard lessons. He came from the rat race lifestyle that many Americans live to my place of peace filled with the beauty of nature, birds, and animals. He even has a new puppy that he can nurture with love and attention. I am surprised at how fast he is understanding Spanish conversation and speaking some Spanish words! Jovenes, as he is called here in Colombia, learn quickly. We even have a volleyball net set up with all of my friends and family coming to play many afternoons a week. I watch with pleasure as I see him transform into a fun-filled person making friends quickly with all whom I cherish in my life.

Cash the new Dogo Argentino at Villa Migelita Ecolodge

There is an important lesson in this syrupy movie on Netflix that can teach all of us. Stop and take time to enjoy the life you live. Look for pleasure in the little things. Get out and go feel fresh air on your face, exercise more, meet your neighbors, open your curtains up in your house and stop living in darkness all day so you can see the television better, change your diet by actually cooking food instead of ordering from menus online, be kind, stop the political posts on Facebook because you will not change anyone’s mind and put nice moments from your day online, show people how to live their best life!

When you live your best life you live the life you deserve. It might happen quickly, or it might take 8 years as it has for me. I have found myself with a lot of difficulties, but I am the best person I can be. I am fulfilled, I still have problems because that is what life is about, learning to navigate problems and still be a good person. Show by example, stay strong, fight when you need to, and give complete authenticity with all you do. Don’t let others influence who you are. Just be the person you are, and be proud of it!